Posts Tagged ‘Farm Mothers’

The Art of Possibility

Monday, January 3rd, 2011

Eight short years ago I curtailed my social life and hit the books to study conflict resolution and become a certified coach. I focused on caring for my farm family, read tons of great books, travelled to Winnipeg and Santa Barbara California to be a part of two really great learning communities. I am glad I made the choice, and I am thankful that  the investment of time, money and energy has paid off.

Women who thrive are life-long learners. They never tire of trying out new things or finding creative ways to solve lingering hassles. They enjoy talking through their problems with trusted friends in the sacred space of a “visit, online chat, or phone call.” They are risk takers and “inner-directed”.

Sometimes when the cashier at Co-op is piling my groceries she asks , “Where have you been lately ? I haven’t seen you for awhile. “ I  tell her of my travels to speak to a group in BC or tape the AgVision TV show in London, Ontario. The non-farmers in the store stop me to share their feedback on seeing me on CTV. These travels and opportunities have blossomed since I  took my certification for coaching and conflict resolution. I was given the chance to do television after writing a book, and doing a decade of 18 annual columns for a prairie farm paper. Words are powerful, with lasting impact, and I am thankful for my high school taskmaster English teacher  and the encouragement of my chemistry teacher, Gopalkrisha (Gopie) .

“Elaine has a very good head for a girl, she should be able to enter the man’s world in any field, and stay at the top.” Gopie, (l974, Springfield High School report card.) Continue reading The Art of Possibility »

Leaving a Lasting Legacy

Friday, December 31st, 2010

Today I baked the “Ultimate Fruitcake” in memory of my youngest sister Grace, who was killed by a drunk driver, 21 years ago today. This yearly ritual of baking her favourite fruitcake fills my home with wonderful scents, and helps me to recall the short life of a dearly loved sister. Last night a long time family friend, Jane, called to say she was thinking of me, and Grace, and my mom, Lois.  Jane recalled  that my mom’s laughter  was so loud that it rolled across a room, and then the tears of joy  usually followed. Jane was the one who sat through the night while my mom lay dying in palliative care. It was sweet to visit over the phone, and reflect on the lives of loved ones.

Soon  I’ll be doing a roadshow with an accounting firm to talk about the “Death of a farmer”. Bet that title just makes you want to jump in a car and come ! My portion is to talk about leaving a lasting legacy, the final wishes, how you would like to be remembered, what to do with sentimental possessions, and the family issues around money and land. (And they only gave me an hour !)

I love talking about this stuff. I’m not so good about organizing all the documents that I want to have put into place, but I have started.

I want you to start, too, : to leave a manual for your loved ones of your important documents, wishes, funeral plans, advisors, plumber etc.  Make a  “life “ binder that someone could grab if your home was flooding, a loved one suddenly dies, with  everything all organized.

I have resources from the internet that will help get you started: Continue reading Leaving a Lasting Legacy »

Respect for homemaking

Monday, February 22nd, 2010

Recently my hubby and I watched Peter Walsh, Life Organization expert “strip down” a family of four who were highly stressed, eating poorly, living in clutter, and only communicating via electronics. Wes’s question at the end was, “What was the stay at home mom doing all day?” Exactly. Continue reading Respect for homemaking »

Widow to widow

Monday, January 11th, 2010

January is a great time to snuggle with a cup of tea and a great book. It is also a time to reflect on the lessons of last year, and for me, that lesson was learning to walk alongside friends who have become young widows.

Widow to Widow is a practical book written by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, now my preferred gift to new widows. I asked a widow what her favorite resource for dealing with her new role of widowhood, and she named this book. Continue reading Widow to widow »

Planting the Seed of Hope for Mother’s Day

Friday, April 24th, 2009

This will be the first Mother’s Day for us, with no mothers. My mom died in l998, and my mother in law passed away this winter. Both women were very strong farm women who nurtured their families with heaps of love and care. Many farm moms whom I have met over the course of the winter are very concerned about the future happiness of their farm family. They want harmony. They want certainty. They crave for plans to be resolved and finalized. This year you might want to give your mom flowers, and a book that can change her life. “Planting the Seed” of Hope was published 5 years ago, and is still timely today to encourage families to communicate, connect, and celebrate life on the farm. I am writing this in blog format as I am still trying to activate my database to get the word out, to encourage families to feed their minds positive choices for the future. “Your farm. Your family. Your choice.” means that we all make choices on how we run our businesses and cherish our families. I’d like to hear from you. We hope to start seeding by the first of May. Spring is late, and very cool here. The water is seeping into the sleughs, but there are lots of waterholes this year! Call 1-866-848-8311 if you would like to order a book to give your Mom. A book can change your life ! Happy Seeding !