Posts Tagged ‘Farm Families’

The Father Factor in Farming

Wednesday, June 8th, 2011

Your father’s particular parenting style is the template that forms the father factor in your career.” “ If your father has died, that doesn’t mean that the feelings from the relationship are dead”. (Dr. Stephan B. Poulter, author of The Father Factor: how your Father’s Legacy Impacts Your Career. www.onefatherfactor.com )

Sometimes as a farm family coach I feel like a detective, patiently gathering clues via conversations from the fathers , mothers, sons and daughters who are struggling with their farm careers. Last month I found a treasured resource;  the book “The Father Factor” was recommended by a farm business advisor as the best book he has read, next to the Bible !

I’ve been writing about Father’s day in this paper for 16 years, and I think that I am most excited about finding this new tool for all farm families to access. If you want to glance through the first chapter go to http://mensightmagazine.com/Articles/Poulter,%20Steven/fatherfactor.htm Continue reading The Father Factor in Farming »

Hang on to Hope

Thursday, March 31st, 2011

“This meeting gave me hope that the process of succession planning does not have to be a painful experience” a farmer wrote on his feedback sheet after I had spent 90 minutes passionately explaining the emotional factors affecting farm family communication in business transfers.

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick” says Proverbs. I am writing this on the plane home from the Peace River region where BC Grain Producers in Dawson Creek and two farm families near Spirit River and the Alberta Peace Region gave me great hope that some families do get things right.

The Peace River region had a bad 2010 drought, and for some it was the third one too close to the last one. The folks who invited me to conduct family meetings with their successor son were pleased that their accountant also took the time to meet me and share his expertise in activating the details of the dreams and hopes for the farm to continue to be successful. Continue reading Hang on to Hope »

Gifts Your Farm Team Needs

Thursday, December 30th, 2010

Beekeepers are a very friendly and warm bunch of folks as I experienced them at their annual convention in Edmonton last month. They are dealing with issues that threaten their livelihood and like grain farmers, the weather really does a number on their business.

As I was flying over Saskatchewan I was really saddened to see the sod covered in so much water that it looked like muskeg, not the prairies I am used to. I suspect that many of you are anticipating a long winter of stress and indecision about how to get ready for next year, and how to face the financial crunches of 2010.

Buying gifts is probably not a fun activity when dollars are tight, so let’s consider some gifts your farm team needs that won’t cost money. They will cost you time and intentionality.

Here’s some ways to encourage the heart of your business:

  1. ACT: Start the conversations about the tough issues that are eating at you and keeping you up at night. When I speak about farm transfer and succession I hear from folks who are so worried about family tension, they aren’t sleeping, and that means they are not able to make well-rested well-conceived plans for everyone’s future. Mark a date on your calendar that you are going to set aside for personal reflection and another date to invite the farm team to have dialogue.
  2. Agenda of Concerns: Set aside some time to meet in a safe, neutral spot with an agenda. You need to be intentional about setting up a business meeting to take the pulse of your emotional climate of your farm team. Use a soft object like a stuffed toy as the talking stick, so that the person talking holds the toy and gets to speak, uninterrupted. I bet your accounting firm has a stress toy you could use as a talking stick. It’s a good idea to let your advisors know your big picture idea of getting more clarity for the vision of your business team. If tensions are high, you might want to hire a facilitator or coach.
  3. Journal: Figure out before you meet what you really want to accomplish. When I ask families what they want for Christmas, the usual answer is “I don’t need anything”, and then they are thankful for what arrives on the 25th of December. Be brutally honest with yourself. What do you really want as encouragement to the heart of your business? Do you and your spouse want the same things or different? Continue reading Gifts Your Farm Team Needs »

Saying Goodbye to the Home Farm

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

Climbing a large rock pile and checking the chicken coop are two fond memories of my childhood playtimes in Grandma’s farm yard. Farm families have a hard time saying goodbye to the memories held with the “home place”. Letting brother take over the yard, or selling out evoke tears, and a deep sense of loss in some folks.

The loss is about the change of ownership and control that begs the question “where are my roots now? Where is my sense of place?” The sadness comes with a loss of connection to your family of origin and wondering if the new owners will respect your need to visit now and again.

In our farming culture, we have rituals like auctions sales, fall suppers, and fairs to mark certain seasons or events. I think it is time to create some traditions that work for families to mark transition and change in moving from the home place, with positive actions. I’ll call it talk, walk, and mark. Continue reading Saying Goodbye to the Home Farm »

Is the Farm Terminally Ill?

Tuesday, June 15th, 2010

What do you want when your cattle farm feels like it is terminally ill?

Hope. Hope that you will find a way to make things work again.

Where is a sense of hope when you feel like your farm is dying?

As a believer, my hope is in God, that He will make a way.  As an encourager, I ask you to ponder and consider how to process and live  with depressed livestock market prices.. As a farmer, I’ve learned to separate out the things I have control over, and the things I don’t.

Glean from the people with terminal illness, and see if some of their wisdom can transfer to the farm that feels like it is terminally ill: Continue reading Is the Farm Terminally Ill? »