Posts Tagged ‘Communication’

“How Long Do You Have to be Married Before You Get to be Family?”

Wednesday, May 4th, 2011

A new daughter-in-law asked… “How long do you have to be married before you get to be family ?” This powerful question is part of Jolene Brown’s new book “Sometimes you  need more than an 2 x 4!…how to tips to successfully grow a family business.”

Jolene Brown and I are friends and colleagues.  We both have strong messages for encouraging farm families to address the tough issues, treat others well, and grow great businesses. I would encourage you to consider her new book as a gift to the new brides in your neighbourhood. (www.jolenebrown.com ) I am asking the young farm women I meet to give me their insights as the “daughter –in-law” for my next book on “daughter-in-law dynamics.” Continue reading “How Long Do You Have to be Married Before You Get to be Family?” »

Spirit Mind and Body Factors Affecting Your Decisions

Monday, April 18th, 2011

Way back in Dr. Berry’s management class we were drilled with the mechanics of decision making “101”.

  1. Identify the problem or issue. What decisions need to be made?
  2. Research the options available to deal with the problem. Gather information.
  3. Choose the best option considering the pros and cons of each option.
  4. Act on the decision using workable reasonable timelines.
  5. Evaluate the impact of the decision or results.
  6. Make adjustments and continue building your decision making skills.

Each person on your farm team has a natural tendency towards the way they like to make decisions, and on some farms there needs to be more attention paid to the things impacting decision making. I call this the spirit, mind and body factors. Continue reading Spirit Mind and Body Factors Affecting Your Decisions »

Hang on to Hope

Thursday, March 31st, 2011

“This meeting gave me hope that the process of succession planning does not have to be a painful experience” a farmer wrote on his feedback sheet after I had spent 90 minutes passionately explaining the emotional factors affecting farm family communication in business transfers.

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick” says Proverbs. I am writing this on the plane home from the Peace River region where BC Grain Producers in Dawson Creek and two farm families near Spirit River and the Alberta Peace Region gave me great hope that some families do get things right.

The Peace River region had a bad 2010 drought, and for some it was the third one too close to the last one. The folks who invited me to conduct family meetings with their successor son were pleased that their accountant also took the time to meet me and share his expertise in activating the details of the dreams and hopes for the farm to continue to be successful. Continue reading Hang on to Hope »

Avoid the Mistakes Farmers Typically Make

Friday, February 18th, 2011

I smile knowingly as I read the farmer’s checklist, he wants to “avoid the mistakes farmers typically make” in succession planning. I don’t pretend to have the exhaustive list, but in eight years of coaching I have seen many scenarios that you don’t want to repeat.

What mistakes?

Poor self care. Your body is not a machine yet you ignore the things your body is telling you. Headaches and gut pains may be a signal that you are not dealing with conflict well, you continue to avoid the crucial conversations the younger generation is begging you for.

Poor marriage care. You’ve noticed that your spouse is a bit more distant lately, yet you just shrug it off and go out to the shop. She’s been showing you some house designs and real estate deals in town, but you are not the least bit interested in talking or considering moving off the home place. You’ve been here 42 years, so why move now? The big mistake here is that you really have no respect for your spouse’s needs and changing goals. Continue reading Avoid the Mistakes Farmers Typically Make »

Pacing through the Overwhelm

Tuesday, February 15th, 2011

Some of you who took the last column to heart may have attacked your farm offices to tidy them up, get organized, and now have a beautiful space to work in. January is typically the month when we are encouraged to pick new goals, write them down, and be transformed with new habits.

For 2011 my theme word is “pacing”.  I had help with this one this time as my farm coach friend Mandi McLeod from New Zealand was visiting our farm in November. She knows my work, my passion to serve farm families, and my tendencies to work too much.

Pacing to me means being really clear on what is important, and being able to leave the rest.  It is understanding that each new day is a gift, and sometimes you have to allow for divine interruption. There’s a soothing quote from a professor’s door that Tim Wiebe presents in his treasury, “Let us be firmly resolved to serve God with our whole heart and life, beyond that, let us have no care about tomorrow. Let us only think of living today as well as we can. Then, when tomorrow comes, it will also be today. And we can apply the same philosophy for another 24 hours.”

I’ve printed that encouragement out, and it sits in the front of my day timer as a constant reminder to pace myself, one day at a time. Continue reading Pacing through the Overwhelm »